Sex ‘Manifesto’: What He Wants

“Sex isn’t all a man wants.” If this statement rings true, then here’s food for thought, the male specie are predominantly about reaching that desired destination, and guess what? Their female counterparts often get their thrills over and over and over again from the exciting journey. So the reality might be that though men love sex unequivocally, women may actually enjoy the euphoric experience more.

Now that we’ve cleared the air, or added cloud to the theory, let’s address the matter at hand. One could argue that pleasure for a man only lies between his physical satisfaction in the ‘bed, bath and beyond’. The Flair has decide to challenge this popular one sided belief head on. How can a woman please her beau without resorting to sexual favours? Find out right now in sex ‘man-ifesto’: what he wants.

Gift of giving

Surprise surprise! Most men love receiving gift, although they won’t ever admit it. The best way to win over his heart too is by granting him a wish he had been asking for, outside of a special occasion. You will be shocked by his response. And probably floored by his reciprocity.

Acting in service too

It’s true what they say that some couples assume roles in relationship, whether they were designated or ordained. Try switching things up for a bit and take care of his areas of expertise. If you’re handling things for him, just because, or maybe due to the fact that he has a lot on his plate, he’d be crazy not to notice! The greater the act, the greater the acknowledgment.

Space and Alone time

Everyone requires space and alone time to recharge and rejuvenate: even men. So instead of living in ‘Clingsville’ with him, allow him the opportunity to breathe, without your life support. He knows you’re there for him and he can call on you at any time, but give him his moments to be him. That may sometimes mean, even in your presence. Take that time to focus on you, and learn the true definition of being alone together.

Encouraging his tickle bone

Men know that women love to laugh, and they revel in this pleasure. But there are times that they are not encouraged because you’re not fueling their flow with laughter. As corny as it sounds, laugh. Maybe the joke is within the corniness of it all. And if you’re able to, join in and the batter and erupt in bouts of jubilance together: after all, laughter is the best medicine.

Feeding him compliments:

Some men have huge egos, and need no help in this department. But it pays to share compliments at opportuned moments. If you’re going out, and your boo is turning heads, both others and your, with his look, let him know. If he’s ‘scentsational’, you tell him. But when is the best time to give him some kind words? When he’s in doubt. He’ll be sure to remember the times that you lifted his spirits when he was feeling down.

TLC and Pampering

It’s great when you’re in tune with his pampering needs and he can call on you for some good old fashioned tender loving care whenever the seemingly good day goes bad, the bad day turns out to be even worse than expected, or there are aches and pains from the gym. Massages and rubs go a long way in saying, ‘I hear you, I see you, I feel you and I love you.’

Lustful admiration

Similar to compliments, you can take it a step further by flirting your way back into his heart. Men love an ego boost, but it’s no secret that they especially appreciate the sultry moves from their known admirer. Play up on that and see where that journey takes you.

Intimacy without sex: horseplay n foreplay

There’s a thin line between intimacy and sex, that often times it can be blurred. Contrary to popular beliefs, men don’t always desire sex, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t be intimate. Kisses to the forehead, handholding, hugging, snuggling, even kissing, maybe more, can make a sensual start without a sexual end. Horsing around and playing pillow fight for instance, which can lead you to the sole destination of foreplay. But it is important to read and understand your bedroom buddy, because one misstep in this tango can lead to resentment in a minute. We get it, the raunchier, the better! But just know that the option is there to keep things ‘PG’ every now and then.