Doctor's Advice - She meant to stay pure, but ...

• She meant to stay pure, but ...

Q. I am female, age 16. I have always meant to keep myself pure, but on Wednesday night, I attended a party. There was a boy there who I knew, and I find him real attractive. Well, Doc, he gave me some drinks and I began to feel kind of light-headed and laughed a lot. As a result, I went into a quiet room with him and I let him kiss me. A couple of minutes after that, things seemed to get out of control. I was amazed by how excited I was. Before I knew what I was doing, I let him touch my private parts and then put himself inside me. Doc, it was only in there for a couple of seconds, maybe an inch or two. He definitely did not do that orgasm thing, and neither did I. It all ended in a nice, friendly way, and he kissed me good night. My period is due in around three weeks. But what I would like to know is, could I be pregnant?

A: On the basis of what you tell me, pregnancy is unlikely. If your recollection is correct, he only got inside for around two seconds and did not discharge. Also, from what you say, it sounds like you were very early in your cycle, so let us hope that you hadn't reached your 'fertile time' yet.

To be frank, that kind of brief penetration does sometimes lead to conception, but the odds are that you will get away with it.

However, if your menses are late this month, you should definitely do a pregnancy test. Also, if you notice any discharge from the vagina, you should go to a doctor and ask for tests in case you have picked up an infection from this boy.

There are several valuable lessons which other girls can learn from your story. They are:

• Your sexual desire can be very much more powerful than you expect;
• Alcohol weakens your resistance;
• A boy can get inside you very quickly indeed - so watch out!

One final word of warning. That young man doubtless enjoyed kissing you and penetrating you. If he is like a lot of other guys, he'd like to come back for more.

In other words, it is highly likely that he will now ask you out and then attempt to get you into a quiet place so that he can have more sex with you. You have been warned.

• Chance of AIDS

Q. Last year, an older woman, around 25 years old, allowed me to have intercourse. This was near Newcastle. Lately, I have not been feeling too well, Doc. Do you think that there is any chance she has given me AIDS?

A: Well, one episode of heterosexual intercourse with a woman in Newcastle must carry a pretty low risk of giving a guy HIV - the virus which causes AIDS.

However, as you are obviously aware, 'straight' sex between a man and a woman can transmit the virus. And you are not feeling too well at present. Therefore, I feel you should go and see a doctor and have a check-up. If you tell him about your concerns, he will advise you as to whether you should have a blood test for HIV. Good luck!

• Foot fetishist boyfriend

Q.  am 21 and from since I was 16, I felt that no man would ever be interested in me. But now I have met a Canadian guy who says he has fallen "hopelessly in love" with me. He wants to get married, and that is OK by me. But there is one slight problem, Doc. He seems kind of fascinated with my feet! He sits and plays with them for hours and keeps saying how beautiful and lovely they are. This seems very strange to me because they are perfectly ordinary feet. We have been to bed a couple of times, and that is OK because I am on the Pill. However, whenever we are in the sack, I notice that he pays as much attention to my toes as he does to my breasts. Why is this, please?

A: Your new guy is clearly what is called a foot fetishist. That means a person who is sexually obsessed with the feet. This particular interest is quite uncommon in Jamaica, but it is extraordinarily frequent in North America, where there is actually a sort of club for people who worship feet. If you tap the words 'sex ' and 'feet' into Google, you will find that there are no less than 155 million sites devoted to this subject.

Most people who are foot fetishists are males. But there are a few female devotees. What these people want to do, as you have discovered, is to caress and massage the partner's feet and to say how beautiful their toes or heels are.

In many cases, these activities are combined with sexual action so that the person reaches an orgasm. For instance, your man may want you to stroke his organ with your toes till he discharges.

Why on earth are so many people like this? The most popular theory among psychologists is that maybe when a person was a tiny toddler, he was lying on the floor when someone caressed him with a foot. Allegedly, he found this very pleasurable, and the exciting memory stayed with him till adulthood.

Be that as it may, when a guy is 'into feet', he is likely to stay like that for the rest of his life. Your new man is most unlikely to want treatment, and it's doubtful if it would do him any good.

So really, you just have to make up your mind whether you want to go on with this relationship. Are you likely to be happy marrying a guy who is obsessed with your toes? Only you can say.

• Widow wants my virginity

Q. I am a guy of 22 and still a virgin. I have now met a widow in Mandeville who seems to be keen to take me to bed. Doc, I am quite nervous about giving up my virginity, and I fear I might get things wrong. Have you any advice?

A: Yes. Make sure you use contraception. In fact, I suggest you buy yourself several packs of condoms right away. I imagine that you are fairly determined to go ahead and have an affaire with this doubtless charming widow. I suspect that she will be very nice to you and show you precisely what to do. It would be reasonable to tell her that this is your first time. My guess is that she will be keen to help you and that she will not expect too much of you. Please take care.

• Would sex harm the baby?

Q. I am pregnant, but sadly, the baby's father has gone to England. Last night, I let another guy have sex with me. Will this harm the baby, Doctor?

A: Only if this guy was carrying a sex infection. I would suggest that you talk to your midwife or doctor and have a laboratory swab taken to make sure you haven't caught any germs.

Email questions to Doc at saturdaylife@gleanerjm.com and read more in the Outlook Magazine tomorrow.