Just like Daddy

Krysta Anderson, Gleaner Writer

Most little girls grow up choosing a man just like or the total opposite of their father. Especially if she was a 'daddy's girl', she will date men who have similar personality traits she admired in her father. Psychologists have varying theories of the virtues of women marrying men like their father. Whether they gravitate to men who are similar or very different from their father is guided by the relationships they had with their fathers growing up. This, it is agreed, is their template of how they relate to men. Today, we look at two women who grew up and married men just like their dads.

Shanoy Coombs told Outlook that was not her original plan, but her husband turned out to be a lot like her father.

"Even though my father is quieter than my husband, they both love quiet moments and love being around friends. They also love drinking rum cream." Both love board games and have a mutual appreciation for dominoes. But while her father enjoys wrestling and a good boxing match, her husband prefers to indulge in football and electronic games. But she notes that both are not afraid to step in when needed in other areas, especially in helping around the home. "Daddy is a great cook, so he would cook at home. Kmar, my husband, is not such a great cook, but he will do other things like the ironing."

Like her father, education is very important to her husband. "Daddy was always stern, but very hands-on. My sisters and I had to do our homework as soon as we got in, and he checked our books to make sure we did work at school." She notes that her husband has the same pragmatic approach with their four-year-old daughter Kailee. She notes that he is great with helping her with her homework and uses food to help teach her math.

"Daddy loved when my siblings and I read to him, because he loved when he could see what we were learning in school." Four-year-old Kailee cannot read that much just yet, but she still 'reads' to her father, retelling him the mostly pictorial stories he reads to her.

Whereas Coombs did not plan to marry a man just like her dad, from day one Kamille Adair-Morgan did. She told Outlook that her father led by example, and had always been a great mentor in her life. He taught her the high standards to expect from a man, how he should treat her, how to compromise when necessary, and how to be faithful. She noted that it was only fitting that she would be with a man just like him. "One of the things I admire about my father is how kind he is to people. He will go out of his way to help, and my husband Yushaine is very much like that." She describes her father and husband as very outgoing and sociable, noting that whenever she went anywhere with either of them, "they would just strike up a conversation with anyone".

She continues, "Sometimes when I whine about things, Yushaine will speak with a calm but firm voice that reminds me so much of how Daddy will deal with me when I'm being unreasonable."

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