Doctor's ADVICE:Fretting about his size

Doc, my boyfriend and I have a problem. We are both virgins, but we are also real highly sexed, and it cannot be long before our passionate petting moves on to intercourse. Yes, I am aware of the dangers, but we just cannot help ourselves. However, there is one major difficulty. Please do not be shocked by this. My boyfriend is always fretting about the size of his organ. He wishes it were bigger. And he is talking about buying some sort of 'developer' to increase its size. I think he is also going to get some tablets from the Internet. However, I think there is nothing wrong with his organ. In fact, I fear it is too big. At the moment, I cannot see how I could ever get it inside me. So I am frightened that if he buys something that makes him even larger, it will hurt me badly when we try to have sex. As you can see, Doc, I am a little confused by worry. Any advice you could give would be welcome.

A: Well, you haven't given me your age, but it sounds as though the two of you are pretty young. And you certainly don't know much about sex.

The first thing I must say to you is that you don't have to rush into having intercourse. Try to calm down and step back a little. Obviously, you are both in the grip of powerful sexual desire, but for the moment, please try to confine yourselves to such things as cuddling, petting, and kissing. Remember: having full sex with someone usually causes more problems than it solves!

Second, if you do eventually proceed to having full sex, which I'm afraid sounds quite likely, please do ensure that one of you uses some form of safe contraception such as a male or female condom.

As it relates to your boyfriend's size, you must try and appreciate that many young men are absolutely obsessed with that particular topic. They think that life (and sex) would be much better if they could only become a little bigger.

I guess that is what your boyfriend believes, but I can assure you that he is wasting his time in trying to buy penile developers or magic pills. They will not work.

Looking on the bright side, that means that you don't have to fret about him getting any bigger. He won't.

It seems probable that one day in the future, you and he will have intercourse. Do not get yourself in a panic about this. It will be physically possible, no matter how big he is.

Summing up, I feel that the two of you need some sensible advice from somebody medical. I recommend that you both go together to a doctor who can help you to talk about your fears and give you a good advice.

Leaking sperm

Doctor, I am a guy of 18, and I am really anxious about leakage of sperm. I try not to think about sex, but several nights a week, I wake up to find that I have leaked some sperm on to the sheet. Will this harm my health? And how can I stop it happening?

A: You cannot. That is nature's way of releasing excess seminal fluid. So you are normal.

Happily, there is no way that these nocturnal emissions - as they are called in medical language - can do any harm to a guy's health.

Irregular menses

I am 20, and my menses seem to be very irregular, Doc. For instance, they came on the first of March, and then again on the 17th. Then I didn't see one till April 25, and the next one appeared on May 6, followed by another on May 24. Then there was one on June 5. Help!

A: These periods are far too irregular and rather too frequent. So it is certain that you are losing too much blood, therefore, you will probably become anaemic before very long.

So something must be done about this right away. Please see a doctor, who can examine you and see if there is any physical problem with your womb or maybe ovaries. The doctor may also want to do some lab tests.

It is likely that the doctor will then put you on some hormone treatment, which will give you regular and predictable menses at roughly monthlyintervals.

Good luck!

He has gonorrhoea

Against my better judgement, I went to bed with a boy in Black River last month. Now, he has texted me to say that he has gonorrhoea! I am terrified by this, Doc, but the fact is that I have no symptoms at all. Does this mean that I am OK?

A: No, unfortunately it doesn't. It is very important for young women to realise that in females, gonorrhoea generally causes no symptoms whatever.

Therefore, very often, a girl does not realise that she has caught 'the clap'. The germs may go on damaging her 'insides' for many years before anybody realises that something is wrong.

Admittedly, a few women do get symptoms when they catch gonorrhoea. Those symptoms may include a vaginal discharge and pain on passing urine, but most females have no warning symptoms at all.

As it relates to you, if you have had sex with a guy who has gonorrhoea, I am afraid that there is high chance that you now have it, too. Therefore, you must see a doctor immediately for tests and treatment.

There remains the faint possibility that the young man in Black River was playing some kind of sick joke when he texted you to say that he had 'the clap', but that does not seem very likely. So please go and consult the doctor right away.

What is LARC?

A nurse told my girlfriend and me that we should use something called LARC to keep her from getting pregnant. But what is this LARC, Doc? And does it have any bad side effects like pain?

A: There has been a misunderstanding here. The term LARC just stands for long-acting reversible contraception.

So it is a general term covering contraceptive implants, injections (the shot), coils, and also the hormone-loaded intra-uterine device called Mirena.

All of these methods are good, though naturally, they can all have side effects sometimes. For more details, just Google the letters LARC.

Blood in my sperm

I must admit that I have slept around with quite a few girls. Now I suddenly notice that there is blood in my sperm, Doc. What should I do?

A: Well, blood in the seminal fluid may just be due to a broken blood-carrying tube (blood vessel). But it could also be caused from an infection.

So please see a doctor immediately to have this problem clarified. And do not have sex till you have been told that it is safe to do so.

Does the Pill abort?

Does the Pill cause abortions as I have heard?

A: No, the contraceptive Pill does not cause abortions. What it does is it stops you from ovulating - that is, releasing an egg or ovum, therefore, you do not get pregnant.

Email questions to Doc at saturdaylife@gleanerjm.com and read more in the Outlook Magazine tomorrow.