Doctor's Advice:She is pinning her pregnancy on me

Doc, a girl in Kingston is claiming that I am the father of the baby that she says she is going to have. But I think this is impossible!

The fact is that four weeks ago, I was visiting the Corporate Area, met her, and started fooling around with her.

I did get inside her, but I swear to you, Doc, that I did not discharge at all. The whole business only lasted about two minutes.

So I think that she is 'pinning this one on me', and that the father is definitely some other boy.

What is your medical opinion, please?

I am afraid that I do not have a great deal of sympathy with your argument. You admit that you had sexual intercourse with this young woman. OK, you say that you did not actually orgasm inside her.

But it is possible that some sperm leaked from your organ, especially if you were near to climaxing. The only way that you are going to find out for certain whether you are the babyfather is by arranging DNA tests, after the child has been born.

Incidentally, at the moment we are assuming that the young lady really is pregnant!

It is only four weeks since you had sex with her, and I am wondering if she has actually had a positive pregnancy test? Maybe you should ask her to confirm this.

You think that the girl is trying to 'pin' the paternity of the alleged baby on you, instead of on some other guy. But I am a little puzzled as to why she would do that.

Do you perhaps suspect that she has had sex with some other guy, whose family is less well off than yours? In other words, are you suggesting that she thinks you are a better 'catch' than this other young man?

There are many imponderables here. But the first thing to do is to establish whether she is really pregnant. If she is, then you should ask her to tell you the date of her last menstrual period. That date would give an indication of precisely when she became pregnant.

I don't know how old you are, but if you are still in your teens, then I think you should now discuss this matter with your parents. I hope they will give you good advice. Maybe they could contact the young lady's parents, to try to reach some agreement.

But ultimately, it may all come down to DNA testing in around nine months' time.

Afraid of not being able to conceive

Good day, Doc. I fear that I will never be able to get pregnant. You see, whenever time I have sex, I find that my guy's fluid runs straight out of me afterwards.

In fact, we do not want to conceive a child for another couple of years or so. But this business is making me fret.

Would you say that I have some anatomical abnormality?

No, you don't. I quite often get the query from younger women because, like you, they think that once a guy's seminal fluid goes into the vagina, it is all supposed to stay in. So they get the idea that they cannot conceive, because they see the fluid flowing out.

But this is all a misunderstanding. In fact, it is normal for virtually all of the male sex fluid to flow out during the hour or so after having sex. Look at an anatomical diagram, and you will see why,

Inside a woman's body, there is pretty well nowhere for the guy's fluid to go. So it reaches the far end of the vagina - and then gently starts flowing out again.

However, some of the tiny sperm which are swimming around in it do manage to get through the small hole in the cervix, and then continue upwards into the womb (the uterus), on their way to look for an egg (ovum). If one of them is successful, then a child will be conceived.

But that does not alter the fact that most of the fluid cannot go anywhere inside. So it just has to flow out again. Summing up, you are normal.

Can too many orgasms harm me?

I am a guy who has managed to have five orgasms in one night, on a recent occasion.

If I did it again, would that do my health any harm, Doc?

A No. It might make you tired, and rather sore. And you could get temporary oedema (also known as 'edema'), a condition in which the penis becomes very puffy and swollen, and remains so for some days. That is really an indication that you have been overdoing things.

But your health will be OK.

How long does the Pill take to work?

My doctor wants me to start the Pill next Thursday, Doc. The following Monday, my loving boyfriend is coming home from abroad.

So would I be protected against pregnancy by the time he gets here?

I presume your doctor has advised you to start your first pack of Pill on 'Day One' of your menses, which is the usual thing these days.

If you do that, then you will be protected immediately.

She says she'll take my virginity

I am a guy of 18. Doc. I have met a girl who says she will help me to lose my virginity. She is experienced, I think.

But can I be absolutely certain that if I use a condom, there will be no chance at all of catching a sexually transmitted infection from her?

Condoms cannot give you 100 per cent protection against sexually transmitted infections (STIs). But they do greatly reduce the chances of catching something, provided that you follow these basic hygiene rules:

1. You must put the condom on before your organ gets anywhere near the young lady's intimate parts.

2. You should keep it on, all the way through intercourse.

3. When you have orgasmed, you should carefully hold it on to yourself - using your finger and thumb - as you withdraw.

4. After you take it off, you should try if possible to wash your hands.

5. When you have 'exited', you should not put your unprotected penis anywhere near her vagina.

This advice may all sound a little cold and clinical. But it could protect you against catching dangerous germs.

Email questions to Doc at saturdaylife@gleanerjm.com and read more in the Outlook Magazine tomorrow.