Doctor's Advice - You are a gigolo!

Q.  Doctor, I am a guy who has got himself into a sexual situation that is a little difficult. I am 31 and for some years now I have made quite a successful living in the hotel industry along the north coast. Basically, I work in public relations and hospitality, welcoming guests, arranging trips, facilitating meetings, and so on. But I will not conceal from you, doc, that I do make a good additional income through (shall we say) being nice to lady tourists.

In other words, if a rich single woman comes to the Caribbean for a vacation, and wants a little male company and some 'dalliance', then I am her man. Please don't think too badly of me, doctor. A guy has to make a living.

But an unusual situation has arisen this winter. A few days ago, I met a well-off American couple who are spending a long vacation here. That night, they invited me to their suite for drinks and it soon became clear that they expected me to have sex with the lady.

I had no objection because she is still a real good looker and I was pretty sure that they would give me a nice 'present' afterwards. So when she summoned me into the bedroom, I went willingly.

Sex with her was great, doc. She gave me a wonderful time, and I certainly did my best to please her. Afterwards, we came out of the bedroom, and the husband met me with a big grin and handed me a roll of banknotes.

Well, that was OK, doctor. But now they have invited me to see them again next week. And there is one problem. They have made it clear that this time they want the husband to watch.

I am not so sure about that. I suppose I could do it. But the thought of 'performing' while another guy looks at me is a little alarming!  I just wonder, doc: Should I go ahead? Admittedly, the financial rewards would be well worth having.

A. I feel you should realise that you are slipping deeper and deeper into a world of what is basically male prostitution. In other words, you are now operating as a gigolo.

Working as a gigolo is technically against the law, though you are unlikely to run into any trouble with the police. But you could encounter some real serious health problems, if any of your 'clients' have sex diseases.

For instance, remember that this American couple have probably invited plenty of other people into their bedroom. So it wouldn't be surprising if the lady is carrying a few germs. She may well be a carrier of chlamydia and there has to be a chance that she might have HIV.

Why do this vacationing couple behave in such a fashion? Well, it is quite common for rich middle-aged couples to find that the husband's virility is not what it used to be, and to decide that a younger male should be invited to satisfy the wife.

Also, in this case, it sounds like the guy is into what they call 'voyeurism'. That means a person who gets his kicks from watching other people do it.

There could be another complication. It is quite likely that if the husband can manage it, he might want to join in and have a 'threesome' with his wife and yourself. I must warn you that he might decide that he wants to fool around a little with YOU.

So all in all, this proposal strikes me as the sort of 'employment offer' that you would be wise to refuse. If, despite what I have said, you decide to go ahead, then I urge you to wear a condom at all times. Afterwards, you should definitely have some health checks from a doctor.

Q.  My
husband feels that I am not as sexy as I used to be. Is it true that
hormone replacement therapy (HRT) would boost my sex drive, as I have
heard?

A. HRT is real good for treating
symptoms like hot flashes, night-time sweating attacks and dryness of
the vagina. But its reputation for boosting female sex drive is somewhat
exaggerated.

Why not have a word with your doc? She
may have some good ideas about increasing your libido and improving
your relationship with your
husband.

Q.  I am a
guy of 27 and I have suddenly started experiencing pain when I pass
urine, doc. Why?

A. This may be a
straightforward urinary infection. But it could be something more
serious - like gonorrhoea. So you should go to your
doc this week. Take with you a specimen of your urine, in a sterile
container, so he can test
it.

Q.  I have just
been diagnosed as having fibroids of the womb, doc. Does this mean I
have to take a hysterectomy? If so, will I be able to have sex
afterwards?

A.. Fibroids are
swellings in the womb and they are extremely common in Jamaica. If they
are not causing you pain or any other troubles, then they can safely be
left alone. Admittedly, quite a lot of ladies who have
fibroids do end up having a hysterectomy - that is, removal of the
womb. But there are some other forms of treatment for fibroids these
days. And do not fret; even if you do have to have a
hysterectomy, you will still be able to enjoy
sex.

Q.  I have
talked to my doctor about certain sex difficulties which I have while I
am in bed with my girlfriend and he has just given me a prescription for
Viagra. I
understand from him that this drug works for four hours. Doc, does this
mean that having had sex once, I would be able to do it again - provided
that the four-hour period isn't
over?

A. Your doc is quite right in
saying that the effect of Viagra lasts for around four hours. But that
isn't an exact figure, and in some guys the drug may last a little
longer than that. By the way, it doesn't usually start working until
about one hour after you have swallowed
it. Technically, it would be possible for a guy to
take a Viagra and to make love an hour later - and then a couple of
hours after that, do the same thing again. But, in practice, it is most
unusual for patients to have sex twice after swallowing this
tablet.

Q. Doctor, I
have done a really stupid thing. I was unfaithful to my husband last
month and now I am
pregnant. However,
when I went to bed with this other man, I was still finishing my menses
and I had intercourse with my husband six days
later. Which of
them do you think is the
father?

A. tatistically, it is much
more likely that your husband is the babyfather. But you could not be
certain, unless you do DNA tests after the baby is
born.