Tribute to Jamaica’s committed fathers
Published:Monday | August 30, 2021 | 12:05 AM
THE EDITOR, Madam:
In a Gleaner article dated June 15, 2019, titled ‘The role of fathers – Part II’, fathers were lauded whether they were biological, step or spiritual dad. Fabulous! I endorse the kind gesture, as fathers play a critical role in the lives of their children, and more men need to rise up and allow children to see them in action so they can be encouraged to realise their potential. Without a doubt, this is far from reality in Jamaica. I am not blaming the fathers either for this ill behaviour of not taking responsibility for their offspring, supporting them or playing a vital role in their lives. I blame slavery and the colonial era for this ill practice.
This whole absenteeism of fathers dated way back in history. The slave master had the fathers living and working away from their families and the women were left to care, support and raise the child/children primarily by themselves. This was the beginning of what most women are experiencing in society today. Although fathers play an important role in procreating lives, this can’t be all they are famous for. They need to step up and honour their responsibilities in their children’s lives.
My experience is both personal and generational. My father accepted me but did not supported me wholeheartedly. And it was almost a déjà vu, my first daughter’s father did the very same thing. Why can’t Jamaican fathers stay committed, loyal and supportive of their families and children? It is high time that now they break free from colonial ideals and embrace modern customs of family life. Now more than ever, fathers are needed to strengthen the homes and to instil great family values to children. Women alone can’t do it. We need you men, as roles are allotted to each parent, and there must be a balance in raising children. They need both parents, although fathers seem to have a greater role in the family unit. They are purported to be the head organiser, provider, leader and protector.
While I encourage more fathers to play a more proactive role in your child’s/children’s lives, remember to love and support your children in whatever small way you can. We appreciate your strength, tenacity, hard work, commitment, willingness, love and support throughout the years.
KAREN MCFARLANE