What to do if your guy is having trouble getting it up

If your man is having trouble in bed, don't take it personally and, whatever you do, don't get mad. It will only stress him out more and keep him limp. Instead, show support. Act as if it's no big deal and tell him how much you enjoy sex with him - and only him - advises sex therapist Brandy Engler, PhD, author of The Men On My Couch. Start your own foreplay, teasing him in seductive ways, and allow him to tease you seductively, too, without focusing on his manhood. Slowing it down, and refocusing the pleasure will help to ease his anxiety. Before you know it, he will be at full attention and raring to go.

If erectile dysfunction is an ongoing issue, you can gently broach the subject later, while you're both relaxed, somewhere other than in the bedroom. Talk about it as a 'we' topic. NEVER make it about him. Make suggestions on doing things together like an exercise regime, cutting out any poor lifestyle practices, laying off porn for a while. If the problem persists, then insist it's time for him to see a doctor for a thorough check-up.